Discussion:
Home should be a place where we feel safe and happy--a place where we know we are loved and accepted, a place where we can learn from one another and enjoy each other's company. What are some words that describe how you would like our home to feel? (make a list together)
Activity:
Take turns acting out scenarios and deciding how we could deal with these problems differently to create a loving atmosphere in our home. (Make it a "movie night" and have one person be the director for each scenario. After acting it out, the director gets to say "cut" and tell the "actors" how to change the scene to make it better. Then change roles, so everyone gets a turn to be the director.)
#1: Josh and Tyson came running through the front door, obviously upset. Josh is yelling about Tyson kicking the soccer ball right at him and hitting him in the stomach. Tyson is yelling about how he made a goal and Josh said it didn't count.
#2: Allison's Dad asked her to come brush her teeth, but she was too busy telling a joke to her brother to hear him. When Allison's Dad finally got her attention, she got upset because she didn't like having him tell her what to do so she screamed and stomped down the hall.
#3: Sam loved to play baseball. It was his favorite game. As soon as he got his homework done, he went outside to practice hitting the ball. When Mom called him to come in and clean up for dinner, he was still having a great time. Sam was so upset about having to leave his favorite game, that he slammed the door and kicked the wall on his way in to make sure everyone knew he was upset. When Mom asked him to pick up his things and come to dinner, he yelled, "No" and slumped down on the couch, refusing to do anything.
#4: Cami and Jessica are getting ready to play a game and Cami wants to go first. She tells Jessica that she won't play anything with her unless she gets to go first.
#5: Mom asked Aaron to straigten the family room before it was time for dinner. As he was cleaning, he found a piece of paper that would be perfect for a paper airplane, so he stopped what he was doing to make one. When Mom came back and asked him to finish quickly, Aaron got upset and told her if she didn't always bug him about cleaning up, it would get done faster.
Dicsussion:
The way that we deal with situations affects the atmosphere of our home. Each of us can make a difference in our home by taking a minute to think about how we want to react. We can think about the example of the Savior and how we would want others to treat us.
Testimony:
-We can make our home a place of happiness and love as we treat each other kindly.
-Heavenly Father wants us to become like Him. We can pray for His help to be more kind and loving, more patient and forgiving.
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
FHE: Forgiveness
Discussion:
Sometimes in life others will hurt or disappoint us. Whether their actions were accidental or on purpose, we are the only ones that can choose how we will act or how we will feel. We can choose to let things bother us and get upset or we can choose to let things go and forgive others. If we choose to focus on a problem, it can seem worse or bigger than it really is. We start to see only the negative.
President Boyd K. Packer talked about forgiveness this past General Conference. (Briefly tell the story from his talk about the man who lost his wife and had to learn to forgive and "leave it alone".)
http://lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/guided-by-the-holy-spirit?lang=eng
President Packer taught that when we refuse to forgive or "leave it alone", "that attitude is somewhat like a man being hit by a club. Offended, he takes up a club and beats himself over the head with it all the days of his life. How foolish! How sad! That kind of revenge is self-inflicting. If you have been offended, forgive, forget it, and leave it alone."
Activity:
When we are hurt by someone, we may have feelings of anger and hurt. We might feel like seeking for revenge or hurting them back. (As you talk about this, fill a backpack with five heavy objects--books, rocks, etc.--labeled: hurt, anger, resentment, revenge, and hate.)
Have each family member take turns carrying this heavy load. Explain that carrying these feelings is an even greater burden than carrying the heavy bag. When we forgive, we can forget all these feelings and are free from the burden of carrying them.
Discussion:
-Who is hurt the most when we choose not to forgive? (ourselves)
-What difference does it make when we forgive? (We can let go of angry and hurt feelings and be happy instead. We can also be forgiven of our own sins.)
Read D&C 64:10
-Why do you think the Lord commanded us to forgive everyone? (Forgiveness allows us to feel peace and happiness. We may not understand why others do things that are unkind, but we are responsible for our own actions and decisions. When we are holding grudges or feeling upset with others, we can't invite the Spirit to be with us. By forgiving others and letting go of hard feelings, we are able to have the companionship of the Holy Ghost and focus on things that are truly important.)
Activity:
Make a simple obstacle course. Have each person go through it while looking backwards, then let everyone go through it looking forward. Discuss how doing the obstacle course while looking forward is like forgiveness. When we forgive, we can forget about the hurt feelings and problems of the past and focus on the future, which makes getting through life much easier.
Testimony:
-We will all have times in our lives when we are hurt by things that others do or say, but we can decide for ourselves how we will act. When we choose to forgive and let things go, we can find peace and have the companionship of the Holy Ghost to help us in our lives. Our lives will be much happier when we choose to forgive.
Additional Activities:
-Read this story from the June 2009 Friend
http://lds.org/friend/2009/06/let-it-go?lang=eng
Sometimes in life others will hurt or disappoint us. Whether their actions were accidental or on purpose, we are the only ones that can choose how we will act or how we will feel. We can choose to let things bother us and get upset or we can choose to let things go and forgive others. If we choose to focus on a problem, it can seem worse or bigger than it really is. We start to see only the negative.
President Boyd K. Packer talked about forgiveness this past General Conference. (Briefly tell the story from his talk about the man who lost his wife and had to learn to forgive and "leave it alone".)
http://lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/guided-by-the-holy-spirit?lang=eng
President Packer taught that when we refuse to forgive or "leave it alone", "that attitude is somewhat like a man being hit by a club. Offended, he takes up a club and beats himself over the head with it all the days of his life. How foolish! How sad! That kind of revenge is self-inflicting. If you have been offended, forgive, forget it, and leave it alone."
Activity:
When we are hurt by someone, we may have feelings of anger and hurt. We might feel like seeking for revenge or hurting them back. (As you talk about this, fill a backpack with five heavy objects--books, rocks, etc.--labeled: hurt, anger, resentment, revenge, and hate.)
Have each family member take turns carrying this heavy load. Explain that carrying these feelings is an even greater burden than carrying the heavy bag. When we forgive, we can forget all these feelings and are free from the burden of carrying them.
Discussion:
-Who is hurt the most when we choose not to forgive? (ourselves)
-What difference does it make when we forgive? (We can let go of angry and hurt feelings and be happy instead. We can also be forgiven of our own sins.)
Read D&C 64:10
-Why do you think the Lord commanded us to forgive everyone? (Forgiveness allows us to feel peace and happiness. We may not understand why others do things that are unkind, but we are responsible for our own actions and decisions. When we are holding grudges or feeling upset with others, we can't invite the Spirit to be with us. By forgiving others and letting go of hard feelings, we are able to have the companionship of the Holy Ghost and focus on things that are truly important.)
Activity:
Make a simple obstacle course. Have each person go through it while looking backwards, then let everyone go through it looking forward. Discuss how doing the obstacle course while looking forward is like forgiveness. When we forgive, we can forget about the hurt feelings and problems of the past and focus on the future, which makes getting through life much easier.
Testimony:
-We will all have times in our lives when we are hurt by things that others do or say, but we can decide for ourselves how we will act. When we choose to forgive and let things go, we can find peace and have the companionship of the Holy Ghost to help us in our lives. Our lives will be much happier when we choose to forgive.
Additional Activities:
-Read this story from the June 2009 Friend
http://lds.org/friend/2009/06/let-it-go?lang=eng
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