Discussion:
Home should be a place where we feel safe and happy--a place where we know we are loved and accepted, a place where we can learn from one another and enjoy each other's company. What are some words that describe how you would like our home to feel? (make a list together)
Activity:
Take turns acting out scenarios and deciding how we could deal with these problems differently to create a loving atmosphere in our home. (Make it a "movie night" and have one person be the director for each scenario. After acting it out, the director gets to say "cut" and tell the "actors" how to change the scene to make it better. Then change roles, so everyone gets a turn to be the director.)
#1: Josh and Tyson came running through the front door, obviously upset. Josh is yelling about Tyson kicking the soccer ball right at him and hitting him in the stomach. Tyson is yelling about how he made a goal and Josh said it didn't count.
#2: Allison's Dad asked her to come brush her teeth, but she was too busy telling a joke to her brother to hear him. When Allison's Dad finally got her attention, she got upset because she didn't like having him tell her what to do so she screamed and stomped down the hall.
#3: Sam loved to play baseball. It was his favorite game. As soon as he got his homework done, he went outside to practice hitting the ball. When Mom called him to come in and clean up for dinner, he was still having a great time. Sam was so upset about having to leave his favorite game, that he slammed the door and kicked the wall on his way in to make sure everyone knew he was upset. When Mom asked him to pick up his things and come to dinner, he yelled, "No" and slumped down on the couch, refusing to do anything.
#4: Cami and Jessica are getting ready to play a game and Cami wants to go first. She tells Jessica that she won't play anything with her unless she gets to go first.
#5: Mom asked Aaron to straigten the family room before it was time for dinner. As he was cleaning, he found a piece of paper that would be perfect for a paper airplane, so he stopped what he was doing to make one. When Mom came back and asked him to finish quickly, Aaron got upset and told her if she didn't always bug him about cleaning up, it would get done faster.
Dicsussion:
The way that we deal with situations affects the atmosphere of our home. Each of us can make a difference in our home by taking a minute to think about how we want to react. We can think about the example of the Savior and how we would want others to treat us.
Testimony:
-We can make our home a place of happiness and love as we treat each other kindly.
-Heavenly Father wants us to become like Him. We can pray for His help to be more kind and loving, more patient and forgiving.
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Thursday, September 15, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
FHE: Speaking Kindly
Activity:
(Pull strips out of a bowl and read out loud.)
Set A
1. I don't want to clean up! I'm not done playing!
2. You always want to be in charge! I don't even want to play with you!
3. That's not very good. Why did you do it like that?
Discuss how these statements make you feel. Unkind words make us feel bad. The words that we choose to use are important.
Set B
1. (complain) These cookies are so good!
2. (angrily) I love you!
3. (meanly) It's fun to play with you!
Discuss how even though the words are kind, the way you say things can make a difference. Speaking in a kind way is just as important as choosing kind words. So is having a good attitude.
Set C
1. Would you like to play with me?
2. I'm having a hard time making this. Could you help me?
3. I like spending time with you.
4. Can I finish this really quick before I clean up?
5. That looks great! I like the way you did this part.
6. I love you!
Discuss how these statements make you feel. When we speak kindly and use kind words, we feel happy and those around us feel happy too.
Story:
What we choose to focus on can change our view of situations or other people. When we choose to look for the positive or what is good, we feel happier and it's easier to have a good attitude.
Read or paraphrase this story about some jungle animals who discovered how what they chose to focus on changed their attitudes about each other. ("Pass it on" by Annabelle Sumera, Friend, Apr 1978)
http://lds.org/friend/1978/04/pass-it-on?lang=eng
Scripture Story:
In the scriptures, we read about some brothers who reacted differently to the same situations. Laman and Lemuel were quick to murmur and complain when things seemed difficult, but Nephi turned to the Lord for help and did his best to accomplish what was asked of him. Discuss the different reactions these brothers had to situations like leaving their home in Jerusalem, returning to get the brass plates, Nephi's broken bow, and building a ship. Laman and Lemuel murmured or complained while Nephi was determined to go and do.
Read this story about Nephi and his brothers from the May 2000 Friend Sharing Time: Keeping Promises. (Copy and paste pictures and text, have the kids color the pictures in advance, and make into a book.)
http://classic.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&locale=0&sourceId=e64194859a4bb010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&vgnextoid=21bc9fbee98db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD
Just as the liahona didn't work when they were unkind or complaining, the Spirit can only guide us when we try our best to do what is right. It's important to have a good attitude even when things are hard. We can rely on the Lord's help when we do our best.
Discussion:
How can the words we choose, the way we say things, and our attitude affect our ability to have the Spirit in our home and to guide us personally?
Testimony:
-Importance of speaking kindly and having a good attitude in order to be happy and to be able to have the Spirit with us to guide us in our lives.
Additional Activities:
1. Read "Gerald's Secret New Year's Resolutions" by Vicki H. Budge, Friend, Jan. 1978, and unscramble the words to discover what Gerald resolutions were.
http://lds.org/friend/1978/01/geralds-secret-new-years-resolutions?lang=eng
2. Choose the Right Words (multiple choice scenarios from Jan. 2010 Friend)
http://lds.org/friend/2010/01/choose-the-right-words?lang=eng
3. Read "Clean up Claire" from May 2008 Friend and discuss how to change our attitude and invite the Spirit after complaining.
http://lds.org/friend/2008/05/clean-up-claire?lang=eng
(Pull strips out of a bowl and read out loud.)
Set A
1. I don't want to clean up! I'm not done playing!
2. You always want to be in charge! I don't even want to play with you!
3. That's not very good. Why did you do it like that?
Discuss how these statements make you feel. Unkind words make us feel bad. The words that we choose to use are important.
Set B
1. (complain) These cookies are so good!
2. (angrily) I love you!
3. (meanly) It's fun to play with you!
Discuss how even though the words are kind, the way you say things can make a difference. Speaking in a kind way is just as important as choosing kind words. So is having a good attitude.
Set C
1. Would you like to play with me?
2. I'm having a hard time making this. Could you help me?
3. I like spending time with you.
4. Can I finish this really quick before I clean up?
5. That looks great! I like the way you did this part.
6. I love you!
Discuss how these statements make you feel. When we speak kindly and use kind words, we feel happy and those around us feel happy too.
Story:
What we choose to focus on can change our view of situations or other people. When we choose to look for the positive or what is good, we feel happier and it's easier to have a good attitude.
Read or paraphrase this story about some jungle animals who discovered how what they chose to focus on changed their attitudes about each other. ("Pass it on" by Annabelle Sumera, Friend, Apr 1978)
http://lds.org/friend/1978/04/pass-it-on?lang=eng
Scripture Story:
In the scriptures, we read about some brothers who reacted differently to the same situations. Laman and Lemuel were quick to murmur and complain when things seemed difficult, but Nephi turned to the Lord for help and did his best to accomplish what was asked of him. Discuss the different reactions these brothers had to situations like leaving their home in Jerusalem, returning to get the brass plates, Nephi's broken bow, and building a ship. Laman and Lemuel murmured or complained while Nephi was determined to go and do.
Read this story about Nephi and his brothers from the May 2000 Friend Sharing Time: Keeping Promises. (Copy and paste pictures and text, have the kids color the pictures in advance, and make into a book.)
http://classic.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&locale=0&sourceId=e64194859a4bb010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&vgnextoid=21bc9fbee98db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD
Just as the liahona didn't work when they were unkind or complaining, the Spirit can only guide us when we try our best to do what is right. It's important to have a good attitude even when things are hard. We can rely on the Lord's help when we do our best.
Discussion:
How can the words we choose, the way we say things, and our attitude affect our ability to have the Spirit in our home and to guide us personally?
Testimony:
-Importance of speaking kindly and having a good attitude in order to be happy and to be able to have the Spirit with us to guide us in our lives.
Additional Activities:
1. Read "Gerald's Secret New Year's Resolutions" by Vicki H. Budge, Friend, Jan. 1978, and unscramble the words to discover what Gerald resolutions were.
http://lds.org/friend/1978/01/geralds-secret-new-years-resolutions?lang=eng
2. Choose the Right Words (multiple choice scenarios from Jan. 2010 Friend)
http://lds.org/friend/2010/01/choose-the-right-words?lang=eng
3. Read "Clean up Claire" from May 2008 Friend and discuss how to change our attitude and invite the Spirit after complaining.
http://lds.org/friend/2008/05/clean-up-claire?lang=eng
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